Sunday, September 16, 2007

Cole: A lifetime of love for interracial couple

I am a 63-year-old, second-generation Italian. My parents were off the boat. Thirty-three years ago, I was lonely, wondering why I couldn't find ''the right woman.'' One day, the most beautiful woman walked into my workplace. I struck up a conversation, and one thing led to another. She is African-American, but it didn't seem to matter. She is better educated than I am, but it didn't seem to matter.

When we met our parents, mine were cold and distant. When we met hers, her parents informed us that they hadn't sent their daughter to college so she could become successful ''and leave her people behind.'' Her father looked at me and said nobody in his family would ever marry ''a white boy.'' I was 31 years old. We got married the next year. Both sets of parents refused to attend the wedding. Tell those young folks that it is their life, but they have to take control of it. We did. And our lives have been blessed.

Today, we have four wonderful children and four wonderful grandkids. Our oldest daughter married a man from Kenya she met in Paris while at school there, and they now have two kids. Our second oldest married an Irish guy; she is finishing medical school while he supports them as a schoolteacher. Her twin brother is married to a Frenchwoman he met at his oldest sister's wedding, and they have twins. Our youngest daughter is still finishing high school and seems to date a whole group of classmates. We have a family reunion every year, and everyone ''gets along.'' It hasn't always been easy. Race adds a factor. We both have taken our share of racist abuse from all sorts of people, educated and otherwise. But we were meant to be, and it has been good. Love can conquer all. And I can tell you that I am as much in love with my wife as the first day I saw her. I thank God she's in my life.

My parents have passed and never accepted us - their loss. Her father passed years ago, but her mother now comes and stays over for a week at a time. She loves her grandkids and when my wife teases her about their complexion, she says, with a twinkle in her eye, ''I've gone blind in my old age.''

1 comment:

Jessica said...

oh,,,, guys, you can not image what I have met. I am a black cuttie and I just met my love half year ago and we will get married next month, and interracial love of course. Am I lucky? So lucky I think, and I wanna share my happiness with all of you here.

By the way, I found my half part baby on a great interracialchats site.He is really gorgeous, even sometimes he is a liittle shy. -:) If you try, you also can be the next lucky one. LOL.

Bye!! and good luck to you all.